Monthly Archives: December 2015

Cheesy personal reflection of 2015

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awww, i fucking love this picture

2015 was the year of emotions that don’t have words. I guess I could say it was a meaningful year? Maybe it was a life-defining year? Whatever it was, it was good.

2015 was, dare I say, the best and weirdest year of my life. I don’t feel guilty for saying or recognizing that either, which is a testament to how genuine I feel about 2015. For the first time since I can remember I can say that things are good in my crazy mind and heart. I think this feeling is what happiness is.

I feel wholeheartedly that I am right where I am supposed to be. And what an amazing feeling this is! I’ve never felt this before, and if you haven’t yet, please wait for it. This year I’ve experienced really crazy shit, and it all wound up being wound up in love.

Things that I did in 2015:

  • Got the most perfect dog in the world
  • Quit my job without having a plan for the sake of my mental health
  • Gained 15 pounds
  • Put out two EPs that I’m proud of
  • Went on a real vacation
  • Read the most I think I’ve ever read
  • Quit Smoking after 12 years
  • Started Grad School
  • Broke up with my boyfriend, the love of my life
  • Realized and relied on the beautiful friendships I’ve developed
  • Got engaged to the love of my life

 

And the major lesson of all of this was LOVE. So here’s what I learned about love:

I am so fucking lucky. I am so. fucking. lucky. I am so grateful. And I am so grateful for love. I’m grateful to experience love. I’m grateful that I was able to test love blindly and have the whole experience take me back to love. Phew. Because it could’ve been a close one if I kept my heart closed shut tight.

Oh, and gratitude IS love. I really learned that this year. Really feeling like where I am in life, studying and learning and really doing all I can to experience the whole wide world, well it’s easy to feel gratitude.

My fiancé is my best friend. He’s been my biggest supporter for the past 7 years (and that’s a hard job, because I’m really a crazy person in disguise) . We had a really shitty three months there, but we came out alive. And we came together in love. This heavy heavy metaphysical love. There’s no other way to describe it. And if you haven’t felt love like this yet, please wait for it and don’t give up. Because it’s the most important thing in life. And if you have it, keep it and cherish it, and feel the gratitude that you are lucky enough to experience this feeling that the word love can’t even justly define.

And I can’t wait for 2016! I can’t wait to learn as much as I can this year, I can’t wait to read as much as possible, I can’t wait to GO TO INDIA, I can’t wait to figure out how to plan a wedding, I can’t wait to plant my garden and explore beautiful NEPA with my dog. And I can’t wait to do it all with love and a grateful heart.

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Being female in 2015 (my thoughts on being a musician, my woman crushes, and my hopes)

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i knew nothing about star wars before seeing “the force awakens”, but fuck yeah, rey.

2015 has been an interesting (worrisome? rejoiceful?)  year for American women. We have seen congress attack Planned Parenthood and women’s reproductive rights over and over again.  Women started making noise and pressing charges about their experience of rape at universities, in the porn industry, and from Bill Cosby. We’ve been introduced to the idea of mandatory and paid maternity leave. Women still make 77 cents to the dollar.  All these examples show that there is still a need to work towards equality for women’s rights. But I think we’re starting to make stride.

What has made me hopeful about feminism and the future? The Music Scene. 

Where I have seen a dramatic change for women is within the music scene. 2015 was a great year to be a female musician. I played so many shows this year which had other female musicians on the bill, and believe me, this is a triumphant leap. The beginning years of playing in A Fire With Friends always made me feel like a somewhat outsider, like that I was supposed to be the token girl piano player role. AFWF as bandmates never made me feel like this, but shows did. And pictures did. Because for press releases and stuff like that the photographer would want me to be in the middle, even though I’m not the songwriter or singer or guitarist, but because I was the girl in the band. And that’s stupid.

Pity Party, my band that happens to be all girls, has warmly been received as simply a band. We’ve been lucky enough to play really cool fun shows and none of it had to do with us being ladies. No one thinks we’re hot, or at least they don’t tell us this, and that’s a good thing. Because we wanna make music, just like everyone else. We don’t wanna be sexualized or judged. We just wanna play our songs and have fun. Being in a band has been a boys club for a very long time, and it feels good to finally feel welcomed.

Music aside, there have been lots of kick ass ladies making changes in how women are perceived in the world. Here are some of my Women Crushes from this year.

Women Crushes of 2015 (in no ranking order)

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Yas Queen

  1. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg

The Notorious RGB, as she has been affectionately called in the title of one of the years New York Times Best Seller, has found herself recognized as a great influence for a new wave of millennial feminism. Her support for SCOTUS’ decision on same-sex marriage and upholding ACA will go down in history.

abbi and ilana

i think broad city changed my life. seriously.

2. Ilana Glazer and Abbi Jacobson

The creators of Broad City continued to produce a fucking great show that demonstrates what it’s like to be a millennial woman in 2015. And it’s not a thing. It’s not a girl show, even though I’m sure people probably assume it is. It’s a fucking really funny show.

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senator elizabeth warren

3. Elizabeth Warren

The MA Senator has continued to kick ass this year by defending planned parenthood and holding big banks and Wall Street accountable.

amy schumer, the goddess

amy schumer, the goddess

4. Amy Schumer

One of the funniest comedians. Continues to speak out about breaking gender norms and women’s issues.

symone sanders

symone sanders, senator bernie sanders’ press secretary

5. Symone Sanders-

Bernie Sanders’ (no relation) press secretary. She has done a lot in her mere 25 years. Before coming to Sanders’ campaign she worked for Ralph Nader. She sits on the board of the National Campaign for Juvenile Justice which is close to my heart.

ana kasperian

thank gawd for ana on TYT

6. Ana Kasperian

The Young Turks journalist and contributing writer for rawstory.com has continued to bring meaningful news to the network.

emily bazelon

i’m so grateful to have been introduced to emily bazelon this year

7. Emily Bazelon

The New York Magazine writer and Slate Political Gab Fest co-host is one of the most brilliant, and most human writers that I’ve come to admire this year.

erykah badu is a fucking genius

you used to call me on your cellular device

8. Erykah Badu

Put out one of my favorite albums of 2015. The concept is brilliant, she’s so fucking talented, and  production is out of this world.

Marilyn Mosby

Maryland State Attorney Marilyn Mosby

9. Marilyn Mosby

Maryland’s State Attorney who oversaw the Freddie Gray murder case. She gave an extremely moving speech when she announced the charges, signifying that systematic racism is real and is killing people.

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trailblazer dr. haifa al-hababi

  1. Dr Haifa al-Hababi

The first woman candidate to run for office in Saudi Arabia. What a freaking big deal. By her example, 19 women were elected to municipal seats in Saudia Arabia this year. Also, she is a social worker.

Hope for 2016

I believe that 2016 will be a monumental election for our generation. I am a supporter of Bernie Sanders who has fought for woman’s rights. If Hilary wins, she will help little girls across American dream that they can be president.

I know there is talk of more Girls’ Nights in Scranton, which is an amazing open mic for women musicians, comics, poets, artists, etc. This is so important, and I’m grateful for Jess Meoni for organizing this (no. 11 woman crush). If I had a place to feel comfortable and debut my songs at 19  years old I know I would be much more confident in life in general. I know I wouldn’t have waited until I was 25 to gather up the courage to show my songs to anyone. The visibility of creative and smart women is what inspires me most, and I’m excited to see what we all can create in the next year.

I also know that there are going to be more open conversations at Marywood University about feminism. The first forum back in November had a great turnout and great discussion. I hope this continues to grow.

All in all, we’re moving in the right direction and we’re picking up steam. It’s not so much of a dirty word to use the word “feminism” and more and more people are starting to see that feminism is just equality. And that’s all that anyone wants anyways, right?

Oh and period panties are a thing. That’s a sign if I’ve ever seen one.

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2015 was pretty okay for ladies

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I Transcribed the GOP Debate in a quick and easy to read format because i’m scared of people not caring.

Look at this group of winners.

I WISH THEY WERE HOLDING HANDS.

Alright. I’m getting weary of the media, no matter the bias. I watched the whole GOP debate on Tuesday night, which deeply frightened me for our country. Wednesday morning I see no media actually reporting on the debate. I tried to find explicit articles about specific points of the debate, but couldn’t. I did however find lots of soundbites and commentary on who won the debate, and who attacked who, and how entertaining it is.

I know a lot of people probably didn’t watch the debate and just waited to watch or read about it on the Facebook headlines. And this is what makes me nervous. I’m weary of leftist and right media.

My semester of gradschool is over for the holiday so I decided to spend my entire Wednesday re-watching the entire debate again and decided to transcribe it in an easy-read way for anyone who wants to hear the GOP candidate’s ACTUAL stance on foreign policy. I’m also going to add anecdotes in italics of my own commentary mixed throughout. I absolutely have a left bias. There were three commentators, Wolf Blitzer, Dana Bash, and Hugh Hewitt. I’m only going to use MODERATORS for the sake of simplicity. I tried my best to make headers, but there was so much overlap chronologically between issues discussed.

Here’s the Washington Post’s transcription I used and the YouTube playlist I used to re-watch on Wednesday. There are links to clarify things that I thought would be handy because I had to look them up myself.

OK, here we go:

INTRODUCTIONS

PAUL: Let’s not close the internet or ban religions. Let’s stop arming ISIS allies. Only Arab Nations should have boots on the ground

KASICH: I have a daughter. We need to unify our country.

CHRISTIE: Obama and Hillary sucks.

FIORINA: I’m angry and I started out as a secretary. 

( This is like a rocket scientist  saying that he started his career by being a life guard in 10th grade at the Scranton Country Club) 

BUSH: I love war. Obama and Hillary sucks.

RUBIO: America was great once, I know, my grandpa told me about it.

CRUZ: We’re at war. Don’t let in refugees who are terrorists. Being politically correct is dumb.

CARSON: Let’s all pray silently for San Bernardino (5 second silence).  Let’s kill ISIS.

TRUMP: Wall. Build up military. Iran deal was stupid, I said that first.  Also everyone fucking loves me.

HOW TO KEEP ISIS OUT

MODERATOR: Trump, what do you wanna do to keep ISIS out?

TRUMP: Wall. If refugees are here they have to go back.

MODERATOR: Bush, why don’t you agree with Trump?

Bush: (looks so nervous having to be the first person thrown to the Trump Fire Pit): We need to destroy ISIS. We can’t ban all Muslims bc then we can’t have a coalition w/ Muslim countries. The Kurds are our best allies. Do you really want circus boy Trump? He’s a chaos candidate.

TRUMP: Bush sucks. Let’s make America great again.

BUSH: Trump, you’re dumb. We need to engage with the Muslim world to defeat ISIS.

RUBIO: ISIS is growing, we need to get rid of them.

CRUZ: Everyone understands what Trump has proposed, and I am not going to speak against Trump because I’m scared of him. I introduced legislation that would suspend America from taking in refugees for three years from any country that ISIS and al Qaida are in (basically every country). Obama and Hilary suck. (Cruz is questioned again about disagreeing Trumps ideas, which he never answers). Radical Islam isn’t a religion, it’s a political and theocratic ideology that wants to kill us.

FIORINA: We need solutions, not lawyers arguing over laws. We need to do something here and there. Caliphate. We need to do two things- bring back the Patriot Act and ask the private sector to help because the government can’t figure out this new, gosh darn, technology thing.

CHRISTIE: Fuck Bush and Clinton. Restore Patriot Act.

KASICH: Let’s do the Gulf War again. Saudis organized a lot of Arab nations. We need to teach local police forces how to spy on their citizens using the Patriot Act.

Wolf Blitzer: Hey Cruz, you signed the Freedom Act which isn’t a Republican.

CRUZ: Yeah, but it ended the fed govt from collecting the bulk collection of phone metadata for millions. It strengthened the spy tools we have, before we could only spy on a small amount of Americans and mostly land lines. Now we can spy on virtually everyone, regardless of communication vessel.

RUBIO: Cruz, you’re dumb. I didn’t sign Freedom Act because bc we need more tools. The Metadata Program we lost was a “valuable tool that we no longer have at our disposal”.

CRUZ: That’s not true and Rubio knows it. Mark Levin. Rubio’s super PAC is running ads they know are lies that is Alinsky like. The old program covered 20-30% of civilians, new one covers 100%.

RUBIO: You just gave out confidential information, bro. Nothing under the freedom act is new. (Cruz looks at moderators like, wtf is this dude talking about and nervously chuckles to himself) The freedom Act took away a good tool that let NSA spy quickly. The next terrorist attack, America’s gonna be like, oh shit I wish we didn’t have the Freedom Act bc we could’ve found the terrorist before they did something.

PAUL: Oh, Marco, you get it all wrong. We’re less safe bc were distracted. Rubio opposed security at every point. The Gang of 8 bill would of liberalized immigration. Rubio sucks, he likes liberals and has love for Schumer.

Rubio: Oh yeah, well your amendment sucked only 10 ppl signed it bc it would ban everyone from coming to US.

Paul: Naw, it would halt immigration from high risk countries. Every terror attack since 9/11, the terrorist came here legally. I want background checks.

CHRISTIE: “Listen, I want to talk to the audience at home for a second. If your eyes are glazing over like mine, this is what it’s like to be on the floor of the United States Senate.” (Christie does look high af) In NJ I used the Patriot Act and it worked.

CARSON: No more PC talk. We’re at war, I told congress, “go ahead, declare the war”. We’re in danger. The Muslim Brotherhood said in the Explanatory Memorandum that was discovered in the Holy Land Foundation Trial that we can attack America when they use PC talk.

Moderator: Carson, which person was right before, Rubio or Paul?

CARSON: Idk, let them answer and fight over it. (What a great way to not answer the question or have an opinion)

BUSH: Some Muslims want peace. Destroy ISIS.

SURVEILLANCE AND INTERNET

Moderator: Silicon Valley hasn’t been helping the NSA by turning over user’s records. Should they?

FIORINA: The US sucks at technology because they are using wrong algorithms. The kids today are smart at technology. DHS says we can’t look at terrorist facebook page- well wtf, I look at my kids facebook pages, isn’t this the same thing? We don’t have to force the kids to making them work with the NSA but we should ask them nicely. (I feel like she’s saying to her kids, “Kids, can you come and help me set up the DVD player?”)

TRUMP: ISIS is better at the internet. Let’s filter and close parts of the internet.

KASICH: That’s dumb. Lets just give local authorities the tools to spy. (what a fucking scary idea)

CARPET BOMBING ISIS

CRUZ: Hell Yeah! Let’s use overwhelming force, like in the Gulf War. We need to spy on ppl. Doesn’t everyone wanna spy on everyone else’s phones and emails? (no) I don’t know how I would carpet bomb ISIS without killing everyone in the city, but let’s do it anyways. I wanna fuck up ISIS so bad.

RUBIO: We need ground force to kill ISIS from Suni Arabs. Our Air Force sucks.  Every war has a propaganda proponent and ISIS is winning at propaganda.  Cruz votes for less money for military stuff and iron dome (He probably said this to make Cruz look anti-Israel)

CRUZ: I told Texas that I wouldn’t hold citizens w/o due process so I couldn’t sign the Defense Authorization Act. Rubio loves Obama and Hillary.

RUBIO: If some is an American citizen and love ISIS then we’ll treat them as a member of an army attacking this country. (This type of talk makes me nervous, basically saying that anyone who is seen as a terrorist can be shot in the face by US army) Our navy and air force sucks.

TRUMP: ISIS doesn’t care if we kill them, but they care if we kill their families, so lets kill their families.

BUSH: That’s really stupid.

TRUMP: Bush sucks.

MODERATOR: Carson, you cool with killing kids?

(Audience boos at this question.}

CARSON: I look in kids eyes and they don’t like me, but then I cut open their heads and fix their brains, and then they like me. Better to look at the big picture.

Moderator: So you’re okay with killing kids? That is what war involves.

CARSON: I’m not ruthless, but I’m tough. I’ll do what I gotta do to protect America.

 

HAS AMERICA FUELED THE GROWTH OF ISIS?

Rand: We armed allies of ISIS who were against Asad, that was stupid. Gaddafi in Libya was stupid. Also, Trump is stupid for thinking of closing the internet. Also, if we kill kids we won’t be part of the Geneva Convention.

TRUMP: Wait, I think I just want to infiltrate the internet and close Syria’s internet.

PAUL: A Regime change is dumb and never works. We have ppl coming now to foreign relation committees like, ‘Hey, ya’ll should arm Al-Qaida’. This is stupid. If we tackle Asad shit’s gonna get even more kray-kray.

KASICH: We need boots on the ground with allies. Gulf War.

RUBIO: We can’t have a coalition bc the Arab countries think Obama sucks. Arab countries wanna kill ISIS a lot too. BC Obama lead from behind meant there were no other troops on the ground when the Asad rebel attacks started.

(You can hear someone say “That’s factually incorrect” on stage).

FIORINA: I’m tough and strong. I’ll get ISIS. Bring back warrior class. Quotes Margaret Thachter.

CHRISTIE: I’ll meet with the King of Jordan because he’s my bro.

CARSON: Let’s kill the caliphate bc that gives ISIS legitimacy. We need to take their OIL  because ISIS is rich (happy to hear OIL brought up). ISIS is rich and they give money all over the world.

CRUZ: Obama and Hillary suck. Gaddafi, Mubarak, and Asad are bad, but at least they helped fight ISIS.

RUBIO: Revolt against Gaddafi was started by the people, I sided with Obama then because shit was gonna get crazy no matter what. Gaddafi cooperates because he thought we were gonna Saddam Hussein him. We need to work with Jordan and Saudi Arabia, but not Asad because he’s anti-American and pro-Hezbollah.

CRUZ: No such thing as moderate rebels. Netanyahu is against Asad too and he doesn’t’ want to see Syria controlled by ISIS.

KASICH: Asad is aligned with Iran and Russia. Make sure they don’t make a Shia Cresent all long Middle East. Let’s fuck up Asad cuz that’ll fuck up Russia and Iran.

TRUMP: (Protesters start booing him) We did a disservice to humanity. Should’ve saved our money. Middle East is a mess.

FIORINA: Obama and Hillary suck.

TRUMP: We have nothing from the Middle East pursuits. We need to take the oil (As soon as he says “oil” the buzzer goes off), not bomb it, just take it and distribute it. It wasn’t so fashionable to say “take the oil before” but I’ve been saying that for three years, and now they are saying it.

 Oh, and Ben Carson is a really nice guy.

CARSON: The Middle East has been fucked, how can we fix that with little bombs?

BUSH: We need strategy for stable Middle East. We’re unsafe. Obama sucks.

PAUL: We did good when we killed Saddam Hussain. Both sides of a war has evil. Regime change just brings chaos and rise to radicals.

CRUZ INTERRUPTS: We should be defeating our enemies, we should have regime change in Iran because Iran has declared war on us.

TRUMP: Asad is a bad guy. We’re backing up ppl who we don’t even know who they are (rebels). One thing at a time. We need to get rid of ISIS first, than Asad.

CHRISTIE: Obama sucks and fucked up shit with Iran deal bc it helped ISIS. Iran causes ISIS.

PAUL: Regime changes are stupid, it was dumb in 2013 when we gave al Qaida arms and now we’re fighting against our own arms. We need realistic foreign policy, its dumb to think of a Utopian world that we spread peace and freedom

KASICH: US shouldn’t be part of civil wars. “There’s a difference between Iraq, where you have Sunni, Shia, and Kurds together after the first World War by the Western powers. It doesn’t work. It needs to break up into three parts”. “We need to punch the Russians in the nose” and Russia is threatening our Eastern European allies.

FIORINA: We should walk away from Russia like Regan did at Reykjavik. Putin sucks, we can’t talk to him until we have a new deal with Iran and air space and allies, and we’ll cut off the money flow and will rebuild things under his nose and do military exercises in the Balkans. ISIS is because of Obama and Hilary.

CHRISTIE: I’ll shoot down the Russian plane in a no fly zone. I’ll talk to Putin all the time. Obama is a “feckless weakling”.

PAUL: Russia was invited by Syria and Iraq to fly through that zone. Shooting down a Russian plane will start WWW.

BUSH: “I know what I don’t know”. Need bigger military.

TRUMP: Bush sucks. I was talked about a lot in the first debate so CNN has good ratings. (Protersters start yelling)

BUSH: Trump won’t be president by insulting his way and ratings don’t matter.

KASICH: We’ll be great when we can all work together and strengthen our economy

CARSON: Because I don’t talk a lot means I’ll be a good president.

IMMIGRATION (AGAIN)

RUBIO: My path to citizenship is work visa for 10 years and then you can apply. I know this isn’t very Republican of me.

CRUZ: I’m not like Rubio. Gang of 8 Bill gave Obama ability to take in refugees without doing background checks. We need more boarder control.

RUBIO: 2013 refugee had a different meaning than today. Cruz supports immigration.

CRUZ: Rubio is just trying to confuse everything. I was against Rubio’s legalization. I’m fighting to secure the border, Rubio isn’t.

TRUMP: Walls work, just look at Israel!

BUSH: Obama sucks.

CARSON: Syrians don’t want to come to USA anyways, they want to go back to Syria. We need to give their allies weapons, but we’re afraid the Kurds will them. And when we give weapons to Saudi Arabia to distribute to allies, only 10% of the weapons get out of Saudi Arabia. Refugees that come to America will definitely be terrorists, so we can’t take any.

PAUL: Rubio was wrong about Gang of 8, it had no provisions for extra safety for refugees. Why hasn’t Rubio tried to strengthen border control?

RUBIO: We probably shouldn’t take refugees bc they might be terrorists.

PAUL: Gov’t shouldn’t be giving out charity like food stamps and housing, and charity would be helping out the refuges. My church holds donation drives.

CHRISTIE: Naw, no refugees, too dangerous. Obama sucks. Women can be terrorists.

KASICH: I kept Ohio safe, except that one time when the government placed Central Americans in Ohio and I didn’t know about it.

NORTH KOREA:

FIORINA: We need China’s help to tackle Kim Jong-Un. I’ve done business with China so I can do it. We got to push back against their cyber fuckery and not let them control the trade route in the South China Sea. We need help from Australia, Japan, and the Philippines.

CARSON: China has more influence on N. Korea. N. Korea is fucked financially because they built their military but let their ppl starve, so we can capitalize on that. We can do that with Putin too. We need to get rid of old energy laws. We have the energy, we just need to lead in energy. Economic power > Military Power. If we don’t get the military right, nothing else matters. (I love the contradiction in the last two sentences here).

BUSH: Fuck Obama and Hillary. 23 million American cyber files are in the hands of China right now. We need to give reliability relief to private sector. We need to retaliate against China and then they’ll respect us.

NUCLEAR TRIAD?

TRUMP: I don’t know what that is. Nuclear is bad.

RUBIO: You idiot. The triad is the ability of US using airplanes, nuclear subs, and from the ground to shoot nuclear weapons. All three of the triad needs to be modernized because they all suck now.

MODERATOR: ASKS ABOUT CRUZ’ OPINION OF TRUMP.

TRUMP: “I’ve gotten to know Cruz over the past 3-4 days, he has a wonderful temper, don’t worry about it”  THEN: TRUMP TO CRUZ: You better not attack me (like a dad threatening his son)

CRUZ: I have daughters. We gotta kill ISIS and Iran.

TRUMP: I won’t run as an independent, promise.

CLOSING REMARKS- WHY U BE PRESIDENT?

CHRISTIE: I was in NJ when 9/11 happened.

FIORINA: I put more security in our company when 9/11 happened.

BUSH: Hilary sucks. My detail plans will keep us safe. I don’t make false promises.

RUBIO: This is the most important election of the generation. It’s the election that will “usher in the best era of our country”.

CRUZ: Obama sucks. Regan was good. Fuck terrorist. Big military.

CARSON: I’m happy I was born in the USA. I hate PC language.

TRUMP: Shout out to the veterans. Nothing works. We are losers now. I’ll make us win. “We’ll have a great, great country, greater than before”

 

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Polarized Thinking is destroying our potential to have independent thought

cat vs. dog

You’re Either a Dog or a Cat

I have been sick for two weeks. I’m pretty such my blood at this point is made up of at least 4% Robitussin. I hope this makes sense to people other than myself and my dog:

We vs. They

The need for distinction and separation in a country that once prided itself on inclusiveness is pulling apart America.

Our way of thinking is becoming minimalized, or at least I notice mine often being compromised. By default, we want things to be clean and simple. We want easy choices. And when there are only two choices to choose from, well making a decision that involves the most good isn’t so hard. I relate this to being a vegetarian in a steak house. I never have to worry about what I’m going to get to eat and never regret what I order, because more than likely there will only be one salad that I can have off the whole menu. Case closed.

The way of making choices based on polarized answers has taken over American politics. Things must fit into nominal categories, and for many things there are only two categories to choose from- The We or The They. You either are or you aren’t. There is no other answer. And this way of thinking is dangerous. It is “in-the-box” thinking. It is standardized test thinking. It is biased thinking that we start accepting as truth.

Donald Trump is a perfect example of someone who strives off people who have been beatened down by the media and other social control measures that promotes polarized thinking as the only way. For instance, it’s either you are part of the whole, the WE, that wants the country to be better, or you are part of the THEY that doesn’t care about the country.  There is no middle ground. And to question why there is no middle ground puts you into the THEY category, because, well, it’s not the WE. You either are a cool kid, or you are not. And you’ll pay the price for the not.

Poloarized thinking is everywhere. It is conveyed through our daily language. And I’m guilty of thinking in polarized terms, and using it as language and definitions as well: I am LEFT, not Right. I am a Woman, not a Man. I am White, not Black. I am Middle Class, not Upper Class. As much as I allow myself to be something, I define myself as NOT being something. Follow? I am left, therefore I also am not right. I am a woman, therefore there is no way I can be a man. I am white, therefore I cannot be black.

But I am starting to challenge this way of thinking because of its exclusitivity, and I don’t believe our minds are so black and white that we can only define ourselves in concrete terms. For instance, I am a woman, but can’t I just be a person? (This is where I get annoyed with the term “feminism” because I think it’s too much of a socially constructed word that turns people off more than it would if it was something more inclusive like “everyoneism”.) Anyways, I digress. Can’t we just say that we are a person? I’m a progressive, but I’m really just a person made up of a lot of components that can’t be separated into easy categories.

We Vs. They makes fighting for what you think is right easier. Because I think that we should have a reformed immigration system makes it easier for me to be part of the WE that isn’t the THEY. And the THEY is wrong. No matter what their view is, they are wrong. Which isn’t the correct way to think. There are many different reasons why people are against immigration reform, but by grouping them all together as my opposition, I am not open to expanding my mind of why. Dig it?

The We vs. They way of thinking is pulling our country apart. Trayvon Martin was when I first started noticing the media’s revitalization of binary way of thought. Even if white people, like myself, consider themselves allies with black people and organizations such as BLM, we still have this idea that we aren’t fully emerged BECAUSE it’s black vs. white. And since I am White, I therefore am not Black, and therefore cannot feel fully the injustices that black people feel when a black person is killed for no reason by a police officer. But I don’t know if I agree with this. I don’t have the history in my genes of oppression, but I do by default because I am an American citizen. And therefore I have to believe, that ultimately there is an “us”. And it’s just not letting terms define what we are and what we are not. It’s making sure we are using our voice and standing up for what is the greater good, no matter how complicated it may be.

 

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